Yup, it most certainly is.
I did my one month on Christian Mingle and have come to find that so called “Christian” men can be more arrogant, conceded and selfish than non-Christian men. But I kind of knew that already.
In the one month this is what happened:
Guy #1 – Ghetto….so ghetto. I don’t say that as a snob because I don’t want to be that way at all but a simple criteria I have is that you don’t talk like you are from the gangs of L.A. Besides that, it sounds really un-intelligent to be calling me “dude” every other sentence. First, I’m not a guy and second, it’s disrespectful. That is how I roll. Also, sarcasm at its max, is a BIG turn off for me. Don’t get me wrong, I can deal with a sense of humor but to be correcting me all the time and being annoyingly sarcastic tells me, again, you have little respect for me and never will develop such respect. So to Guy# 1, good luck finding that meek woman who will cower to your arrogance because you won’t see me cowering to anyone.
Guy #2 – This one I actually met after talking on the phone and that was where it ended. I thought the meeting went well but apparently, I had my Quasimodo face on. So much so that after a week of nothing, I get a text saying I wasn’t his “ideal”, although he thought I “spoke well”, whatever the heck that means. I can only assume it meant I had brains but not the looks? You take a guess. So, to Guy #2, I’m not going to apologize for not being your “ideal”. In fact, I’m glad I’m not your ideal because that just proves, again, that I won’t step down to accommodate arrogance, which you personify.
Guy #3 – I thought this one was actually going somewhere after a conversation on the phone. I will admit, he was a sssllllloooowwww talker, meaning, he drolled on without wondering if I was interested and the words were slow to come out but I liked his conversation so I looked that over. Then, there was nothing. By that, I mean, there were no texts or calls, just nothing after that. I even invited him to a Reign game which he gladly accepted. However, I never heard from him after that. I finally had to text him and ask if he was still interested in going to the game and he texted back saying his mother was in the hospital, or something like that. Convenient. I know, I’m passing a bit of judgment there, but really? All the sudden it’s the “my grandma died and that’s why I need to leave school” line? He was deleted from my phone. So to Guy #3, next time, maybe you can try the “my dog ate your phone number” excuse? That would be more creative.
Guy #4 – This one actually didn’t get past a message on the website. I really liked his profile and I messaged him, despite the fact his profile said he “prefers” taller women. I figured prefer doesn’t mean a must. Besides, I’m 5’4”, the average female height. I got a message back from him stating “sorry, height is a must. I just want a woman to at least reach my sternum”. I didn’t even know what a sternum was and had to look it up but his attitude reeked of arrogance. Also, his whole profile was all about “I like real woman who are Godly, women who like to laugh and enjoy life”….yada yada yada. He should have added “but I really don’t care about all of that unless you are precisely the height that my arrogant and selfish personality requests. OH and you will also cook, clean, have my babies and do my every wish and command.” Yeah, that would have been more realistic for him. So to Guy #4, make sure that when you find that women who at least reaches your sternum that she is “God fearing” as well because all us Christians know that Jesus was all about being selfish and making sure YOU get what YOU want. Sheesh…
Lastly, Guy #5 – Hmmm…this one. We exchanged a few messages on the site and then I gave him my email. He seemed down to earth, nothing really arrogant about him. He has a good job, one son who plays baseball but he seems busy. I know we are all busy but I believe that is one of the problems with all this. Everyone is so sucked into their jobs, careers, kids, whatever, that there is no time to meet new people. Anyway, we had a good but short texting conversation but then …nothing. I figured my Quasimodo was showing again and this time through my texts so I deleted HIM from my phone since I figured he wasn’t interested after not responding for a few days. I just got a text saying “Good Morning, Have a Good Day”. I think it was from this guy but, I deleted it because technically, I had no idea who the number was. So, Guy #5, you probably could have been a potential but I really just don’t have time for games. If you want to get to know someone, show some friggin interest. It takes 10 seconds to send a text.
And that is the end of that. My subscription expired and I will not be renewing. Men out there are ridiculous, just ridiculous. I don’t need to continue on that site to see that it is just as hopeless as the other sites, if not worse because I’ve come to find so called “God Fearing” men are on such a high horse, they think they are actually the right hand of God and I most certainly don’t want to be associated or near THAT person when he comes before God to be told he wasn’t the right hand of anything. The arrogance runs rampant among them.
Can someone please just tell Benedict Cumberbatch that I’m ready for his marriage proposal and will proudly be the mother of his children!? Apparently, that is all he wants in life when asked about where he wants to be in his future. I have no clue whether Mr. Cumberbatch is a Christian or not but he seems to be more of a gentleman and all around decent man than any other man I’ve run into in my past, ever. I’m still flabbergasted that man has not found a good wife. But he’s been known to say…and I quote “I’ve been broody since I was 12, but I can’t just get anyone pregnant, it has got to be the right person. To find the right person? Oh well, there’s always a way isn’t there –and I don’t mean the internet. I mean there are always moments and meetings and chance encounters. But to make meaningful relationships is very hard at the moment.“
If someone like Benedict, who is all about being gorgeous and being a gentleman, has trouble, I give up…..sorta.
But on the flip side…last night I caught Killer Clowns from Outer Space and the inner geek in me squee’d. I certainly don’t need a man to a) lose 60 lbs and gain my confidence back and b) enjoy a great Horror Cheese and Crackers 80’s movie like Killer Clowns!