Yeah, I just couldn’t think of a title but oh how much I love that Snowman!
If you are reading this, you might want to make sure you have the time and grab a coffee and pull up a chair. This might be a long update.
So, this morning, I drop off The Boy at before care and the room is all dark and every single child is staring at the tv and singing along to our favorite Snowman….
I proudly announced that his voice and that “Summer” song is my ring tone…I have no shame! I love that Snowman!
Happy Anniversary! You registered on WordPress.com 1 year ago! Thanks for flying with us. Keep up the good blogging!
Yes, it has been 1 year that I’ve had this WordPress blog open. It doesn’t seem that long yet, it kinda does. I think that may be because of the massive amount of writing I’ve put into this thing and how much of my life history I’ve revealed.
4th Grade Project
This month is 4th grade project month. Apparently, 4th graders are no longer tied down to doing just a Mission located here in California. At least my kid’s school isn’t requiring a California Mission. We get to choose any California landmark we desire. I decided….oh I mean THE BOY….decided Hearst Castle in San Simeon, CA. How the HELL I’m going to make a model of this thing now has me worried that I may have bit off more than I can chew…but it’s THE BOY’s project…right? It doesn’t reflect at ALL on me..right?
But regardless, I will try to create the front of the Castle, some trees in front then the Neptune Pool. The pool I already have an idea of how it’s going to be made. It’s the Castle I’m worried about. But supply shopping will soon commence at the Walmart and Micheals.
It’s due May 7, so I have a good month to do this….ahem..I mean THE BOY has a good month to do his project…
I’m still, miraculously, losing weight. There are ups and downs. I got on the scale one week and gained 8 lbs, then got on it again the next week and lost the 8 and a few more. So it’s hard to gauge what will happen but it doesn’t matter. As long as I can still run on that treadmill, breathe when going up stairs and fit into a size 8.
And that I NEVER see that scale tell me 245 lbs ever again.
I have not visited the clinic nor got an injection for a month now. I’ve also been completely off the appetite suppressants. However, I may return to the clinic and pay off the last $200 for another 10 weeks soon. After, that 10 weeks, if I’m diligent, that should be it for me on losing the initial weight. Then it’s maintenance from here until I die. So I will continue to remain 95% carb free, for the rest of my life. I will constantly monitor portions and make better choices. I will forever keep my exercise level high.
But as of this date, I have lost a total of 71 lbs. That is more than what The Boy weighs! And, I’m not longer in the “Obese” section of the BMI charts. I’m simply “overweight” now…..
So apparently a size 6/8 and looking like this….is overweight. But hey, at least I’m not “Obese” anymore!
Well surprise surprise!!..…a family member has officially been cut off and guess what.…IT ISN’T ME!
In the past it would have been me considering some of the crap I’ve pulled. But it isn’t, (BTW, the relationship between myself and my mother is GREATLY improved. She still sometimes says things that I have to roll my eyes at but I’m able to do just that and it’s all good).
My aunt, my mother’s sister, is officially cut off, monetarily and emotionally, with anything to do with myself, my sister and our mother and father. There will no longer be any interaction between us and her. If she has the gall to call my mother up on the future asking for money or whatever, my mother has been instructed by myself and my sister that she is to not answer the phone, lest she desires to feels our wrath.
Believe me when I say that this decision was tossed around a lot and has lots of merit behind it. My aunt has burned her last bridge with these latest shenanigans she pulled.
My mother’s other sister, has also cut their sister off in the capacity listed above. I am actually not going to go into detail because, even though it included a possible legal battle and my aunt just being a manipulator and pathological liar, it is very convoluted and honestly, to embarrassing to even admit here.
I know one thing is for sure regarding my family. I am REALLY sick and tired of new “skeletons” that keep coming out of our family closet every so often. With this new debacle, even more skeletons have come out and honestly, I don’t know who or WHAT to believe anymore.
I’m just glad that my son isn’t near some of the “skeletons” and I just want to be done with it all.
I so desire to shake my family tree of all its skeletons and bury their bones forever.
Life will always continue to surprise me and people surprising me is no exception. As my aunt has surprised us all by betraying the family, my ex-husband surprised me to the point of humility.
Wait…does anyone know what temperature it is in HELL!?
So, back in December, I decided I needed to go back to court to get the ex to pay a bit more child support only because, according to our current incomes, he should be paying about $400 more a month. So I got that started, got my previous attorney to work on it and got it filed. Earlier this week, my attorney tells me that my ex got his own lawyer and wants to negotiate….ugh.
I think the worst. I mean what is there to negotiate?! If he thinks he can weasel back into The Boy’s life after 8 years of nothing just so he can pay less in child support….screw that! I know that is the worst possible scenario, but that is where my mind went and, apparently, it didn’t need to.
Long story short, I spoke with my ex yesterday and he agrees to all that I have requested, which is the higher monthly child support payment and the $600 he owes me from a washing machine we bought back when we were married that he was ordered to pay and never did.
I think my jaw literally fell to the floor.
Am I being tricked?
Is he lying?
Did I land in Bizzarro World?!?!
Well, no I don’t believe he is lying. I think he knows that if it goes to court, a judge would “hand him his ass on a platter” as a new friend of mine so poetically and precisely put it. I would assume, he is just laying down the sword and realizing his defeat.
I know that gloating and pride are not qualities that God promotes and being a women of faith I would rather not gloat but I have to say that for the first time in 10 years, I feel like a HUGE weight has been lifted off me and that this particular fight is just about over and I may have won. Now, I won’t be so naïve as to think that something else might not come up as life has many plot twists but my ex only has 8 more years to be obligated to pay child support and I believe that this issue of an increase might come up one more time before the 8 years are up, but until then, I am the victor.
So that ended rather amicably and a HUGE weight has been lifted off me because this Boy is getting SUPER expensive what with torn jeans every few weeks, new shoes every month and hockey gear…I barely have money to get myself $1.99 Suave shampoo!
- I miss Disneyland visits so much. I don’t see a renewal of a pass anytime in the future.
- The Walking Dead, Season 4 is over…and if you don’t know what I’m talking about, that’s ok. If you do and haven’t seen it…don’t get mad at me when I say I would turn into EXACTLY the same kind of person Rick has turned into. And yes, I would have ripped that guys throat out with my teeth…if he was attacking my kid and double yes, I would have stabbed my kid’s would be attacker 50 million times. Rick did exactly what I would have done, to protect my child.
- New Season of Game of Thrones starts Sunday!
- So! Who is taking me to go see Captain America! The Boy doesn’t want to see it but I do! Who’s coming with me?!?!
Lastly, I would like to give a shout out and I hope that this person doesn’t mind me giving him a shout out.
At one point in my life, just after losing my best friend, I honestly thought that God did not intend for me to develop any kinds of friendships. I couldn’t find anyone that matched the connection that she and I had. I believe that we were soul mates but not in the romantic sense. More in a sisterly bond sense, yet we shared not one drop of blood.
However, along the way I have run into some truly fascinating people who are genuine, kind and willing to make a connection. Some have stuck around in my life (cue in a wonderful couple who live up north who I think are the best EVER! And yes, I will give Elder Scrolls a chance). But for the most part, it’s been a lonely life that I have built many walls around. So, to make a new friend is a huge positive for me.
I would just like to tell this person, and you know who you are, thank you SOOO much for giving me a chance, being patient and breaking down the walls I’ve built up around me. I know that as individuals, we run into many people on a daily basis, not knowing anything about them. We affect them by our actions and you have affected me tremendously. You are the positive friendship that my little weak faith needed, in God and in people.
Thank you so much for listening to me this past week. You have NO idea how just being able to get things off my chest has helped me. I greatly appreciate all the effort you’ve put into getting to know me. You are a truly blessed person and the friendship we are building is important to me.
And with that, until the next time, that is all for now.